Thursday, March 17, 2016

Embracing the Inner Martha

      I could never do that. I don't have time for that.  I'm just a Mary, not a Martha...

          Over the last ten years I've been entrenched with morning sickness or sleepless nights, I've drooled over the blogs on Pinterest that featured arts and crafts, plan liturgical meals, rocked theme parties and redecorated every season (looking at you, Auntie Leila and Jessica). I was so sure I'd have time for that when the kids leave me to my empty nest.  

       But when Blessed Is She inspired me to embrace a role this year, I picked “homemaker.”   This was largely influenced by my kids’ challenge in my mom suggestion box to be more creative and the realization that my older girls are going to need these skills if they too become wives and mothers. It just resonated with Mother Teresa’s instructions to “Go Home and love your family.”

            So I chose a style (farmhouse cottage because we live in one), settled on some easy spring make over projects and put everyone to task:

1.  It started with the toothbrush holder that had to go and the curiosity over chalk paint. I purchased a mason jar, foam brush, chalk paint, sealer and got into my nail file.  

2. With so much left over paint, the fruit basket, storage basket and bookends on the were not spared.   Its okay that the kids got globs of paint on it; the sander fixed that.  The bookshelf got pops of aqua blue which prompted a couple of comments:
           "Mama's painting everything blue." 
        "Next thing you know Mama's going to paint Daddy blue,"  husband said.

3. The husband came home with not one but three old windows that he rescued from the trash pile, so we raided the art supplies and stamped their one in a billion print to create a masterpiece I call “Farmhands and baby feet.”

The other window went to the windowless bathroom upstairs beside the schoolroom.

{Funny but true quote} 

 4.  Icons have a place in life for sure but not with the cottage vibe. They were relocated to a better home and the rustic two hearts took over the hearth. Since the pictures blended with the wall, I thrifted two frames and painted them white.  They were a tad big so I purchased some jute, burlap and stitched flowers to make a banner. 

{Happy} The banner just makes the hearth more festive. 

With the fireplace no longer in use, I stenciled a pitcher for a vase and arranged the florals.

5. At this point, the girls really got into redecorating mode.  Without prompt, they sorted closets, organized the pantry, the kitchen drawers and we capped our counters with storage jars and an old cookie canister whose lid was broken.  They surprised us with heart shaped pancakes for breakfast on Valentines. And they spring cleaned the house from top to bottom.

{Real}  Cookie jar upcycled to utensil crock

6. Sooner or later, the re-upholstery had to happen with all the crumbs and crud that stuck to the chairs.  My oldest helped pick a darker fabric… not caring if it meets farmhouse design regulation y’all, it just needed to camouflage stains.  

7.  I lost some important paperwork when I used the kitchen table as my office desk. That very afternoon, I marched into Hobby Lobby (I support them!) and picked up a small industrial looking desk for a wee nook in the homeschool space. I honestly don’t know why I didn’t get a teacher’s desk sooner, I’ve been teaching for six years now.  The artwork if you remember is the one that the middle child painted and won first place. I’ve been tempted to put a yellow “do not cross” tape around it to prevent another mishap but so far it hasn’t been necessary. 

The new office space and more organized home has made me more efficient in task management. So efficient that I've been trying out new recipes more often and my helpers and I had time to plan an avenger party.
{Happy}  It was a father and son party and father picked the theme. 

I can’t even tell you how impressed, inspired and how excited and the girls and I were to be a crew of our home spring creativity update/cleanse.  We’ve all embraced the inner home maker/crafter/organizer/decorator/party planner in us. I'm pretty sure St. Martha was misunderstood. 

Happy Spring everybody, may you release your creativity to love your home and family!

Joining h/p/f/r at Like Mother, Like Daughter and 7QT at This Aint the Lyceum.  Thank you for hosting Auntie Leila and Kelly!

Tuesday, February 23, 2016

What To Do When Pope Francis Trumpets Immigration ...and Aliens!

So the Media, Donald Trump, Pope Francis, Vladimir Putin, and opinionated Catholics walk into a cyber bar, and here’s how it went down:

MEDIA:  Mr. Putin, with the parliament’s recent dress code demand on the media, what do you think about requiring the Duma to wearing wigs like the British parliament and barristers did?

PRESIDENT PUTIN:  I’m not a fan of unnatural hairstyles.  Some people get away with it, but most hair pieces or implants make people look, what is the word...  alien?... no ODD, like an alien.


DONALD TRUMP:  That’s disgraceful! Next thing you know, Russia will be insulting the Scottish tradition of wearing kilts.  If I become president, I’m going to patrol nuclear ships around Russia, and let Russia pay for it.  Who’s with me? England? Scotland?

MEDIA:  Oooh its Pope Francis! Pope Francis, do you think it’s abnormal for men to wear wigs or kilts?

POPE FRANCIS:  I think it’s a lovely tradition in certain English and Scottish customs. Tradition is very important and we should respect that.  Jesus himself, and his apostles, wore long hair and a robe, which you could say is like a dress. Many fine priests still wear the cassock today.


VATICAN: The Pope did not say that.  He said certain traditions should be respected.

TRADITIONAL CATHOLICS: What about the tradition of our pontiff wearing red shoes? Can we talk about that?

CONSERVATIVE AMERICANS:  Wait. Did the Pope just condone illegal immigrants who disrespect not mere traditions,  but disregard US immigration laws?

LIBERAL CATHOLICS: Woohoo! Women can become priests.

LIBERAL AMERICANS: The borders should be open. All aliens welcome!


St. Joseph asleep, dreaming and receiving instructions to take Mary and Jesus and flee to become refugees

            With the cacophony of opinions clashing on the Donald Trump-Pope Francis cyber conversation, another voice is hardly necessary.  But since I haven’t read too many immigrants or immigration lawyers voices in the Catholic blogosphere, I won’t hesitate to regale you with my take away from the controversy.

            The broiling issue of immigration is one to which I am convicted and affected.  Like most aliens (before the days of political correctness, that’s what immigrants were called.), I moved to the United States with a dream.  I entered with proper documents and waited my turn at the United States Citizenship and Immigration Service. As did your ancestors and my children's paternal ancestors.

            When I recall skimming my hands down the list of last names of arriving passengers at Ellis Island, I remember the American immigrant saints like St. Elizabeth Ann Seton, St. Francis Cabrini and Blessed Francis Seelos.  They must empathize with the unique experience of living as a stranger between two cultures, becoming a missionary for the Church, and laboring toward a shared dream.

             I am profoundly grateful America took me in.  The more I learn about American history, the more I marvel at the great and noble men who shaped this country and praise God who blessed it abundantly.

             During the years I practiced, I met countless of immigrants who crossed the border illegally.  The situation in their countries of origin is unlike my sheltered middle-class background. Theirs is far from ideal, which explains why they risked lives in crossing the deserts of Nogales or Tijuana, entrusting their future to “coyotes”.  Toilet-less huts without running water, sleeping on dirt floors, neighborhood armed conflict, rebel and drug wars uncontrolled by local police, religious and political persecution, war-torn refugee camps, sex slavery are some real life testimonies I’ve heard.  They hoped a life of toil in America, harvesting potatoes, constructing high rises, driving school buses, cleaning apartments, bussing tables, teaching in classrooms or nursing patients, would secure their children’s future.

            If you heard their before and after stories like I did, you might have gotten emotional when Pope Francis emphasized during his last visit in his address to Congress, “We must not be taken aback by the [refugees] numbers, but rather view them as persons, seeing their faces and listening to their stories, trying to respond as best we can to their situation.” I felt the same surge of emotion when a client hugged me after processing an inter-country adoption and a naturalization ceremony.

            The Catholic Social Teaching on immigration encourages us to welcome the stranger among us, “for in this encounter with the immigrant and the refugee in our midst, we encounter Christ.”  Among the five principles outlined from the teachings, two key polarizing principles surface:

             “When persons cannot find employment in their country of origin to support themselves and their families, they have a right to find work elsewhere in order to survive… The Church recognizes the right of sovereign nations to control their territories but rejects such control when it is exerted merely for the purpose of acquiring additional wealth.”

            Seeing Jesus in the innocent immigrant, migrant or refugee was one of the better moments of my career.   Admittedly, it was not always easy to recognize Jesus in disguise.   There were a handful of foreign-born individuals (the PC term for aliens) who were inadmissible or deportable by law.  Under U.S. Code Sec 1182, an immigrant must not have been convicted with essential elements of a crime of moral turpitude, or other degrees of involvement in money laundering, violation of a drug laws, prostitution, human trafficking offenses, terrorist activities, and other crimes that Mr. Donald Trump rightly believes make an immigrant a questionably upstanding member of society.  

            As with all laws, current immigration laws can stand to be tweaked and improvised.  The details of those I will leave to the American immigration lawyers association to recommend and for Congress to debate.  I don’t have all the solutions and I am not a politician called to implement policies.  But I strive to do three things from where I am as a Catholic trying to live out my religion and politics in an imperfect world. So can you:

            First, read and react responsibly.  This means never taking the secular media news about Pope Francis at face value.  Research on reliable sources, wait for full facts to emerge and place so-called quotes within the proper context before reacting.  Educate or re-educate yourself on the actual Church teaching at issue in question. Understanding the Church’s position on immigration concerns the plight of developing countries and the God-given right of all people to “to conditions worthy of human life and if these conditions are not present, the right to migrate.” (Exsul Familia).  In the encyclical Pacem in Terris, St. Pope John Paul II wrote, “When there are just reasons for it, [human beings] have the right to emigrate to other countries.” Immigration can be reconciled with the right of nations to protect its citizens from harm and provided that “the public wealth does not forbid this.”  Discuss the issues (not the personalities) with kindness.

            Two, be welcoming to immigrants as the Church challenges you.  Scripture says, “You must be merciful to the alien for you were strangers yourselves. (Deut 10:19)” Reach out to the cultural minorities in your parish or workplace.  Who doesn’t ever appreciate a welcome mat extended?  Listen to our stories, sample our culture and teach us some of yours.  We'll both be richer from building bridges; its almost like traveling minus the airfare.

            Three, be charitable to citizens of developing countries. Factor into your budget donations to grassroots organizations for developing countries. Forego getting that brand new RV or boat or cut your wardrobe size to half. You don’t have to get the latest i-phone or flat screen TV. Consuming less means more sacrifices, but freeing up your resources to share.   Five dollars goes a long way in Haiti.   If you and I helped needy people in developing countries more, they won’t need to cross the border.  They will be free to dream big dreams in their homeland.

            Its for good reason that the Old and New Testament make special mention to be merciful and befriend the "stranger."  The Isrealites were "aliens"  Jesus was a refugee, so its not a far stretch to grasp Our Lord's teaching, “Whatsoever you do to the least of my brothers, you do it to me.”

Friday, February 05, 2016

Kiss Those Chocolates Goodbye and Other Lent Ideas

Lent is closing in and the Hazard homestead is gearing up.  What’s in store for us this year can be broken down in seven well-laid plans:  (Joining  Kelly for seven quicktakes today)

Have you tried the kisses truffles?  You should, but do it after Lent.
1.  Fasting and Abstinence.  Lent is, of course, the season to give up unhealthy attachments and learn detachment.  On top of the required fasting and abstinence days, my family wrote a list of things we are giving up for Lent which include: desert, video games, non-saint movies and social media. 

 Each Lent, our pastor also makes an emphasis to challenge us to do more for our spiritual life during this season.  Our family to-do list is lengthy and varied in case we fail at some of our goals.  

2.   Jar of Sacraments.   For every Sacrament or devotion  (such as Eucharistic Adoration, Divine Mercy or Station of the Cross) the kids can secure a jewel in their jar.

Repurposed condiment jar with burlap and twine
 (Slits will be added at the last minute to prevent undue pre emptive jewel dropping) 
3. Work of Mercy. To drum up publicity for the year of mercy, we plan to visit doors of mercy more often and perform a work of mercy for the souls in purgatory.  The kids are also learning that the corporal works of mercy (feeding the hungry, clothing the naked, etc.) can be performed for their (less fortunate) family members. 

4.   New prayers.  We’re ambitiously learning three prayers this year: Prayer before Crucifix, Memorare and Angelus.  The prayer before the crucifix is in our pieta book and the Catholic Prayers which we tote around during Lent so that we can earn a plenary indulgence. The Marian prayers, framed in the homeschool wall, will be prayed after the school day is over.   

These prayers and pictures are from the 2016 calendar of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Concepcion
You can frame the free printables from

5. Crown of Thorns Dough.  The children love this craft of baking salty dough into a crown of thorns, so we’ve been keeping it annually.  For every good deed they do, they get to take out a thorn from Jesus’ head.

6. Lenten Read –The BIS Lenten workbook was my big plan but since that sold out quicker than I could say “Mine!” I’ve conceded that maybe the Holy Spirit has other plans, so I clicked over to Kelly’s list of recommended reading, and our parish lending library, said a short prayer and picked two:


7.  Virtue.  A few Lenten seasons ago, during a parish mission, the fathers of mercy supplied us with a list of virtues juxtaposed to their corresponding vices.  Using that infographic, I'm trying to recall which capital sins I struggle with (those that come up in the confessional regularly) and practice a certain virtue for Lent.   Sloth is my shame and industry is my attempted virtue (more on that later).

I hope you have a blessed Lent!